Today Jeanne, Emily and I wrap up our Chosen and Approved series. Emily shares her experience with feeling insecure when making decisions. She begins with a story from childhood and describes a “whatever she’s having, please” way of life beginning at a young age.


My aunt and uncle took us into the toy store in the mall and made an amazing promise: my sister and I could each pick one item—ANY item in the store—and they would get it for us.

Talk about eight-year-old heaven. Looking back as an adult, I wonder how big of a risk my aunt and uncle took that day. What was the most expensive toy in the store? How big was it?

Well, my sister and I took stock of the inventory, and my sister made her choice: a mechanical dog about ten inches tall with soft white fur. It walked on a leash, barked, and did back flips.

When I declared that I wanted the same thing, my aunt tried to gently talk me out of it.

As I read these words, I flashed back to my own childhood and the desire to fit in. When you have four brothers, you choose boy things because well, you just do. My brothers were the friends, who I hung out with daily so when they liked something, I liked it too. I adopted a “whatever she’s having, please” attitude.

Life seemed easier as I looked to others’ choices to guide me in making my own. When my friends wore a certain style of clothes,  I begged my mom for the chance to wear the same clothes. Who I was became wrapped up in the choices of others rather than the uniqueness of who God created me to be.

[Tweet “Copycat behavior steals something more subtle:the beautiful gift of uniqueness. @novelwritergirl”]

I love how Emily ends her post, points us to God and the unique creation of who we are.

Where insecurity says we must envy and copy others, faith says God has a wonderful plan for each life. Our individual personality and tastes and opinions further that plan.

So put down the toy dog and back away. Choose something uniquely you.

Click here to read Emily’s complete post. Go here to catch up on the whole series.

Walking in my own uniqueness,

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