Today is week three of the Chosen and Approved: Untangling Our Identities from People and Perfection series. Today Emily takes a look at the story of David to help us understand our people-pleasing tendencies. She digs into David’s affair with Bathsheba and the plot against Uriah and then questions how God chose a man such as David for such an important role in our story of faith. To learn more about David, you can read 2 Samuel 11.


She begins by saying…

My modern conservative Christian mind has trouble with David and all of his wives. Then, I read about his affair with Bathsheba and the plot against Uriah, and I don’t understand how God could’ve chosen this man for such an important role. Yet the Bible says David was a man after God’s heart, so despite his flaws, David was right with his God.

With my God.

And I’d be wise to learn from his example.

I shake my head in agreement as I read these words and wonder anew how God chooses broken and messy people to do the important work of building His kingdom. But that’s not all. There is a sense of people-pleasing that courses strongly through my veins. There are times I wear blinders and my focus is limited only to pleasing others rather than pleasing God. If you continue to read David’s story and Emily’s, you will discover that God chose David because his focus was on pleasing Him above others.

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As I read these final words from Emily, God speaks a reminder of how it looks to choose Him first. As we make mistakes we look to God for grace, forgiveness and how to please Him above all others.

David’s story is challenging for me because it convicts my perfectionist, people-pleasing ways. I want to be a woman after God’s heart. I don’t want to waste my life chasing anything less, and David’s story shows me quite clearly some areas where I have a tendency to substitute people-pleasing for God-pleasing.

Her story mirrors my own in many ways, but through the grace of God we learn how to turn to Him in our messy choices and become God-pleasers. Click here to read Emily’s entire post.

To catch up on the whole series from Jeanne, Emily and I, click here!

Blessings of grace along the way!

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