Life Lessons – What God is Teaching Me About Grief – Part 1
is a brokenness as a result of a loss
is a raw, back-stabbing pain
is an aching emptiness
can consume you
can blind side you
can be overcome!
As I travel through a new normal after the loss of my mom, my heart is broken but my soul opens for the peace and comfort that I can only receive fully from God. Words, cards, hugs and meals pour forth from friends and family the first few weeks and you are carried forward on the tide of these acts of kindness. You tell yourself that “I can do this!” because support is near. But life goes on and friends and family are swallowed up by their own daily routines and your new normal feels like the bottom fell out. I say this only as an awareness to understand that the process of grief is not over in a few short weeks. In fact, the process lingers for as long as it takes that person to heal. I have a wonderful support system but all should keep in mind that when you walk along side someone through grief be aware how you can sustain the support past the first several weeks.
Moving forward, I am learning that God, the Great Comforter and Healer, will walk this new path with me. I will never be alone because He loves me, yes me, with all His heart. He says when:
3 We give thanks to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is our Father Who shows us loving-kindness and our God Who gives us comfort. 4 He gives us comfort in all our troubles. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
This truth will help sustain me through this walk called grief and healing. God is already teaching me through His words and the kindness of others.
What I have already learned:
God’s heart breaks as our heart shatters over the loss of a loved one
God’s tears mingle with ours and peace and comfort flow through the mix
God’s embrace pours love into our broken hearts and healing begins
when we accept that first hug
God reminds us that He is our comfort and His words are a salve to our broken hearts.
As sure as the sun rises and sets each day, God will provide comfort during this new normal. He promises us that we will never be alone. Here are some of God’s promises:
Lord, You have been the place of comfort for all people of all time. Psalm 90:1
Those who have sorrow are happy, because they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4
May He give your hearts comfort and strength to say and do every good thing. Thessalonians 2:17
God gave these two things that cannot be changed and God cannot lie. We who have turned to Him can have great comfort knowing that He will do what He has promised. Hebrews 6:18
As I am moving forward along this path of uncertainty and emptiness over my loss, I will continue to share moments of this new journey. I am comforted not only by God but the friends and family who are walking along side me. I pray that my story will provide some insight and encouragement to anyone else who has suffered a devastating loss of any kind. Here are two final thoughts and words of wisdom that are sustaining me right now. The following words are from the Matt Redman song “Your Grace Finds Me”.
It’s there on a wedding day
There in the weeping by the graveside
There in the very breath we breathe
Your great grace
So I’m breathing in Your grace
And breathing out Your praise
I’m breathing in Your grace
Forever I’ll be
Click here to here to listen to the whole song! Beautiful song, beautiful grace-
And… God’s words…
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”2 Corinthians 12:9
Linking up this year with Ann Voskamp’s 2014 Joy Dare. Find the link up at A Holy Experience. Counting blessings daily will bless you immeasurably! JoyDare #79-99
- Back to school-teacher PD day-time for routine, support of my colleagues, shared conversation with adults
- A deep freeze day so no school, extra time to spend reading and writing, family checking in and providing support
- First day back at school-students overjoyed to see me, happy exhaustion at the end of the day, a visit with my dad
- Group work flowing and looking like group work at school,weather changes moving toward slightly warmer,baked tilapia-yum
- Friday-need I say more,the gift of having the best job ever even on days like today,temperatures in the 40s- woohoo
- Lunch with family at our favorite pizza place, delight in the form of laughter,lesson plans finished for the coming week
- Spending my birthday with a friend and at church, birthday blessings from all, the gift of another year of life
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